Retired Lawyer Shares How to Advocate for Yourself & Loved Ones

From homes to health care, you and I need to advocate for yourself. You have choices and you have power. You can take action and you do have choices.

My Guest:

Karen Mulroy is an attorney who retired at age 62 without regret to spend quality time with her parents until their death at the ages of 97 and 98. They passed away within 4 months of each other, followed by the death of her former husband, with whom she maintained a close relationship. She has navigated the challenges, rewards and emotional aftermath of caring for loved ones through their final moments.

Questions We Answer in This Episode:

• [00:06:13] – What is your background and life experience?
• [00:08:52] – What were your challenges and rewards of caring for aging loved ones?
• [00:18:55] – What is your advocacy for aging loved ones?
• [00:39:00] – Do you have any tips to redefine and reclaim life after loss?
• [00:35:04] – Any other tips for midlife and older women about how to advocate for yourself?

Practical Advice for Non-Lawyers: Steps for dealing with home or health issues:

• Make a record
• Take pictures/videos
• Get expert opinions
• Escalate reasonably

You don’t need to “lawyer up” immediately—just document and ask respectfully.

It’s important to ask questions, trust your gut, and speak up—especially when others can’t.

Key Takeaways

• Being an advocate starts with asking questions. You don’t have to be a lawyer to advocate effectively. Documentation, curiosity, and assertiveness help.
• Even intelligent, experienced people can fall into denial. Advocacy requires persistence and compassion.
• End-of-life care should align with the patient’s values. Knowing and honoring their wishes is crucial.
• You have more power than you think—use it wisely. Especially with institutions like healthcare or builders.
• Support systems matter. Having another person to back your advocacy—like a nurse practitioner in the family—can amplify your voice.

You Have More Power Than You Think — Advocate for Yourself

Connect with Karen:

• Instagram – @earthdogs3
• Questions and Consultation – [email protected]

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