What if your biggest obstacle was something you can’t see?
Do you have a hard time getting or staying motivated around fitness and health habits?
You would defend that yes, you want to be fit, you want to be active and eat well and know you would feel better … but you seem to start and stop.
You want to be someone who gets up in the morning or goes for a walk every afternoon, who orders healthfully at restaurants even when others don’t. But you can’t quite get there.
What if something you never suspected could be your biggest obstacle to weight loss, optimal energy, or ultimately your best life?
Today’s episode visits a recurring theme of emotions that could be tied to your self-sabotage and be a form of self-protection.
Dr. Debi Silber, founder of The PBTInstitute, is a Transformational Psychologist and a health, mindset, and personal development expert. She’s an award-winning speaker, coach and author of the Amazon #1 Bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis, The Unshakable Woman-The Workbook (the companion guide to the book) as well as 2 books recommended by Brian Tracy, Marshall Goldsmith and Jack Canfield.
Based on her findings, along with 27 years of health, mindset and lifestyle coaching, she’s created a proven approach to help women heal (physically, mentally and emotionally) from a life crisis, specializing in betrayal.
I share some of Debi’s words:
When we trust someone, we believe we can be vulnerable, we’re loved, protected, valued and safe. We believe that the other person has the same values, beliefs and level of integrity that we have. We believe that they’re honoring the same agreement, sharing the same priorities, and living by the same rules. We believe those we’ve given our trust to would never do anything to violate that sacred contract… until they do. This is the powerful and painful process of betrayal.
Questions I asked Debi in this episode:
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Got plans to get fit this summer? It’s a perfect time to do it! More hours of sunlight and easy, breezy ways to move without tons of layers and mittens may inspire you. But then there’s the Moscow Mules and campfires, the wedding cakes, and long brunches. You can get fit without sabotaging yourself this summer with this simple 10 ways to get fit (and avoid sabotage).
Protein + fiber kill cravings. Fact. So include them both at every meal. In fact, if you missed my podcast with Dr. Gabrielle Lyons click here. You need more than most women are getting. The first place to look is breakfast. Don’t skip and don’t have that orange juice! Listen here.
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If you tend to binge on the “baked chips” the “bean chips” or the frozen coconut dessert pints, or popcorn that readily turns to sugar and stores itself on your thighs…don’t bring them into the house.
If you bring them in you intend to eat them.
Who needs it? Doesn’t it cost more to eat it and zap you of energy than it does to discard? If you’re really committed to get fit this summer they have to go.
Cook once and eat many times. Grill 2 pounds of chicken breasts instead of one. Make a one-pot meal in the oven while you’re in the kitchen anyway and then freeze it all.
That said, don’t let yourself get bored or stale. To apply these 10 ways to get fit this summer you’re going to need variety!
Include your freezer made-ahead- meals or consider a roasted chicken from the store occasionally.
I love frozen cooked shrimp. Thaw in minutes for a cold shrimp salad, grill or stir-fry in 5 more minutes.
Pull out the beans, pre-cooked quinoa, and combine with your made-ahead taco meat or make an omelet occasionally.
Most of us are terrible at following through with rewards for ourselves so it’s no wonder we’re terrible at following through! This is a self-worth thing. Deal with it.
Invest with your time, money, and energy. Otherwise it will not happen. All three are required.
The last of these 10 ways to get fit this summer is about accountability. Tell a friend. Better yet, get an acquaintance! Someone you know but barely know is a better accountability partner than someone who will love you even if you screw up! Make sure your buddy is dependent on you as well as you on her.
Coming up next this week (Thursday) on the podcast it’s a special virtual Spa Day with Robyn Benson where she’s sharing the short and long -term benefits of the vampire facial, and explaining the O-shot, P-shot and other feel-younger practices you don’t want to miss!
Lorna McLaren, bestselling author of Before it Hits the Fan:Quick Communication Tips to Help You Resolve Conflict and Reduce Stress shares secrets for business that can help you reduce holiday stress before it starts too.
She’s a corporate trainer and international speaker on effective communication, conflict resolution, and stress reduction. That is the perfect trilogy for emotionally charged holidays or any time of year if you’re a woman in midlife more susceptible to the negative effects of stress thanks to hormones.
It’s no secret that over 80 diseases are directly tied to stress. We’re taught to exercise, eat healthy, and yet we aren’t given extensive tools to deal with stress. Our environment may have conditioned us to respond certain ways that are dysfunctional. If it’s your norm you don’t even realize that you’re doing it. Leave this episode with a new awareness of what triggers you, how you might trigger others, and with a bag of tools to protect you and them!
How listening can help you:
Lorna shares how positive words can influence your brain and your emotions dramatically. Interestingly enough some words you might think of as positive really can give us a negative emotional reaction. Time to check in with yourself on this one! One of the examples she gives reveals just how much we devalue self-care.
Join this conversation by listening. Change years of conditioning by creating awareness of where you’re sabotaging yourself or possibly others unintentionally. Are you the victim of stress at the office or causing stress, or both? Find out!
Sample chapter titles from Lorna’s book:
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You’re too busy to exercise? Or eat right? What if you owned and operated 7 businesses, with 320+ employees, commuted at least 2 hours daily to be in each one of them, and ate every meal except breakfast at a restaurant? That’s hitting a few obstacles. Add to that being hit by a car 20 years ago while jogging. Today’s guest has overcome some obstacles showing you – and maybe men in your life – that you can too. Hear why he’s literally “hard-wired” for success.
If you have a question for Tom, leave them below the show at flippingfifty.com/podcast and I’ll see that we relay the answers! Between 7 businesses, two brand new locations opening in the next 6 weeks (as we release), and trying to get in the exercise and sleep that make all that happen, he’s a little busy!
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Things are going along great. You’ve lost weight. Your clothes are lose. You might have to go shopping. People stop you and say, “something’s different” and they don’t know why, but you do!
Then you start to slip. You skip exercise more often. You go ahead and give in at dinner to pleas of “have a life” from friends who think you look fine.
Or maybe for you it’s different.
You are doing everything right. You eat what you’re supposed to. You exercise. You’re still not seeing any change. The scale is not budging. You feel like every day is struggle. Everyone around you seems to do this easily, but not you.
So you say, forget it. You’re miserable trying and happier when you’re not trying so hard. At least then you expect to be the same.
Self-sabotage happens to all of us. There are five reasons I shared in this episode two. It was number two that’s really the most fixable from the outside. If you’re ready to take that leap into learning how to customize the right answers for you, then watch this episode, where you’ll get the special promo code and use it to jump in with both feet to my online course. The secret is there isn’t a secret. The answers are there if you let them unfold. You’re going to pull together:
…into a whole-you program that’s less struggle and the way to get your body happy again. Your body, mind, and soul all have to be on the same page. When that happens your body wants to be at it’s best weight. It’s easier, more efficient, and even your body wants the path of least resistance.
Comment below on your own challenges or solutions when it comes to self-sabotage. Have you been there too?